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7 Things I Never Needed To Know Before Becoming A Mummy

On the 19th December 2017, I became a mummy for the first time.

Baby Bethany crashed onto the scene nine days early; she really was the most incredible Christmas present and our lives haven’t been the same since. It really is true when people say your life is turned upside down, things are never simply about ‘you’ anymore and nothing anyone says can prepare you for parenthood.

But so far, even though I have laughed, cried and panicked in abundance, I wouldn’t change being a mummy for the world.

With being a parent though, there comes with it a whole host of things that I have never thought about or needed to know until this point.

Such as…

Knowing The Location Of The Lift

Now of course when I go out with Bethany, there is the buggy to consider. The other week in Marks and Spencers, I started off towards the escalators in order to go up to the next floor. It then suddenly dawned on me. I couldn’t use the escalator!

Cue the hunt for the lift! It took me ages, even though I’ve been shopping in this place for longer than I can remember!

I imagine in time I shall know the exact location of all lifts in all the shops in various shopping centres.

mummy has to use the lift now

Using Baby Changing/Feeding Rooms

I think so far, I have only had to change Bethany once when out and about. Feeding however has been a necessity. I found this concept quite daunting, and to a degree I still do. I am getting better at finding secluded corners and hidden spots in cafes where I don’t have to be on full view to everyone else. I know it is against the law now to ask a breastfeeding mother to leave but I have made the effort where I can to use feeding room facilities. Places like Mothercare are brilliant because of the toilet and feeding/changing facilities. I love not being far from a Mothercare! There are surprisingly many feeding facilities available in bigger shops- again, you wouldn’t ever find this out though without needing one.

feeding and changing room

Buggy & Sling Technique

‘Travel Systems’, as they are for some reason now known, are wonderful bits of engineering but take a lot of getting used to. And it doesn’t matter how many times you practice putting up and collapsing a buggy, when you need to do it in a rush/under pressure/with an audience, guaranteed things will go wrong. One of the buggy parts doubles up as a car seat, which managed to bruise my Mum’s leg on its first use and is still rather temperamental as to whether it will sit in the correct position to lock itself or not.

Recently Sam and I went to IKEA as a safe outing for an hour or so to prevent cabin fever kicking in. We got there, parked in a decent parent & baby slot, started to assemble the buggy only to realise we had left the connectors for attaching the car seat onto the frame and wheels at home. Cue slight panic.

Instead of turning round and going home though, it dawned on me- I had remembered to bring my Hana baby wrap with me.

So sheepishly the buggy bits went back into the boot and I got the sling in place (again with passers by commenting) ready to carry Bethany around.

This was only the second time I had put the sling on without the support from my sister-in-law; however, I managed it and we had a successful afternoon.


Using Parent & Baby Parking Slots

I can finally smugly make my way into these amazing parking spaces! I am now the proud recipient of glances and stares as I am judged by whether I have a tiny person on board and worthy of such a space.

That said, in some car parks I have absolutely no idea where the parent and baby spaces are and have ended up spending longer in car parks looking for them!

parent and child friendly parking spots


Sterilisers. Scary looking machines with various parts that play a vital part in ensuring babies don’t get ill from dirty bottles, dummies etc. I was so scared of our steriliser at first that it became Sam’s job. Now of course he has gone back to work, I have HAD to learn how to do this!

In fact it couldn’t be easier and doesn’t take that long.


The Thin Blue Line

No, not the 90s Police sitcom with Rowan Atkinson but rather the ingenious way of telling whether a nappy is dirty or not. When we were in hospital after the birth of Bethany, midwives and doctors would ask us about wet/dirty nappies. But we couldn’t really tell. It wasn’t until a midwife told us about the line on the front of the nappies that suddenly everything became so much more clear.

Clean nappies have a yellow line down the front of them and when nappies contain moisture, the line turns blue. A clear indication that the nappy needed changing. I think it was taken for granted that we knew how nappies worked.

But on finding out that snippet of information was revolutionary!

look out for the thin blue line

Uses of Breast Milk

For those of you who thought breast milk was purely for feeding babies, well I have learned over the past twenty four hours that it can in fact be hugely beneficial in so many other ways! There really should be a Mrs Beeton’s Guide to Breast Milk!

Breast milk is fantastic for things like:

– sticky eyes in babies (bit like conjunctivitis)

– to help with outer ear infections

– put it on nappy rash

– skin sores

– spots (even adult ones!)

– can help with tummy bugs

I am sure there are many more than this.

a mummy breast feeding

So there we have it – a small list of things I now know since becoming a mummy.

I do know, however, I have so much more to learn!



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  • Suzie
    January 24, 2018 at 11:02 am

    Oh bless her, she’s absolutely gorgeous! Looking forward to visiting!

    • Donna
      January 24, 2018 at 6:44 pm

      I can’t stop looking at her – will never get anything done! Really looking forward to you meeting her xx

  • Fancy
    January 27, 2018 at 10:20 am

    I get so angered when people misuse the parent child parking spot!! Congrats☺

    • Donna
      January 29, 2018 at 7:55 pm

      I know what you mean about the parking spaces . Feels weird being able to use them, but in a good way!

  • Shailaja Vishwanath
    January 27, 2018 at 1:16 pm

    What a lovely Christmas gift. Many congratulations! And yes, those are things you rarely think about before a baby 🙂

    • Donna
      January 29, 2018 at 7:57 pm

      Thank you very much! It was an amazing Christmas surprise 🙂

  • Samantha
    February 1, 2018 at 7:33 am

    Awww beautiful, congratulations 🌸🌟

    • Donna
      February 3, 2018 at 7:19 pm

      Thank you very much 🙂

  • Nina
    February 2, 2018 at 9:09 am

    Congratulations on your new arrival 🙂 I can relate to most of those things, and 8 months on I’ve got a good knowledge of where all those things are in my local area!

    • Donna
      February 3, 2018 at 7:20 pm

      Thank you 🙂 I’m sure I will get there too!

  • Allie P.
    February 2, 2018 at 1:59 pm

    The thin blue line really was such an amazing discovery. As a head’s up, the line might morph into characters or other patterns as the diapers grow in size. The color won’t change then, but the images will fade.

    • Donna
      February 3, 2018 at 7:20 pm

      Oooo! Thanks for the heads up! Such a clever idea 🙂

  • Mel
    February 4, 2018 at 12:13 am

    You’ve learned a lot more than I did in the first few weeks! Luckily we didn’t have a car and I shopped every day using a big pram!
    The funniest thing happened though when firstborn was 6 weeks and I wanted to shop for new clothes. One of my sisters (who I won’t name and shame but you know very well!) offered to babysit with her friend. I left 2 bottles and off I went on the bus to Croydon. 3 hours later when I got back, everyone was frantic. Baby was red from screaming and sister and friend were red from worrying. What I had failed to do was instruct them on how to open the bottle and put it back together WITHOUT the disc thingy being present!
    In the 1960’s, there were so many new inventions where babycare was concerned, that it was difficult to keep up. For example, I just missed babygro’s and of course there were no disposables. Although things have moved on to an amazing level, I am glad (!) that you are still experiencing the same feeelings that most new mums have, because they will help you to build confidence in being a Mum, build a different family partnership with S and more importantly you will always be able to empathise with other Mums.
    Keep staring at your beautiful daughter, she won’t stay little for long! Love and hugs, Mel

  • Shelley
    February 11, 2018 at 8:25 am

    I tried to use a baby sling with my eldest son (who is now 20!) but he slid straight through and I ended up doing a crazy jig to catch him! It went back to the shop the next day haha. Baby Bethany is gorgeous. Big hugs x